Wed, 2006-05-17 16:16
Wed, 2006-05-17 16:34
#1
Help Vampires
What a great social observation of our times =D>
Wed, 2006-05-17 16:43
#2
Help Vampires
:-k now why does this sound spookily familiar, I think someone could let the chap know that " Create resources for Help Vampires (and regular folks) to help themselves." whilst well intentioned and a good thing to do actually goes largely unnoticed by these types.
Talk about sharply observed though 
It would be nice though if all the regular members could read this section '#2: Cease Enabling Behavior' as that is what I have been trying to follow for a while now and it would help if others would perhaps concider the points listed
Wed, 2006-05-17 16:47
#3
Help Vampires
That is excellent. 
But sadly familiar 
Wed, 2006-05-17 17:23
#4
Help Vampires
The Miscellaneous section is my 'walled retreat' :-$
Wed, 2006-05-17 17:41
#5
Help Vampires
I've been on retreat for a while, in need of deep contemplative meditation and nourishing discourse
"Signs of Help Vampire Infestation" is sadly spot on !
Wed, 2006-05-17 19:21
#6
Help Vampires
Quote:
You'll get good results by following this action plan for solving your community's Help Vampire problem:
1. Create resources for Help Vampires (and regular folks) to help themselves.
2. Cease all behavior which enables Help Vampires' vampy behavior.
3. Meet Help Vampires head-on.
As you can see, none of these steps endorse violence. There are no stakes, kickboxing moves, or sneaky little ampules of holy waterâ although witty repartee may be involved.
Excellent, that's what we're good at.
This is the MOST important bit:
Quote:
Foster thinking. Even if it's not a question you see go bye fifty times a day... don't answer it with a direct fix (unless the person is a known non-vamp, or it's a real puzzler). Answer with questions to spur (and guide) thought. If the Help Vampire resists thinking or complains, give them the URL for the Resources page and withhold further assistance.
Great article though
Thu, 2006-05-18 03:51
#7
Help Vampires
Reminds me of a thread I'm involved in now. Look at post #19 and the OP's answer and my follow-up. Could be an example in the Vampire article.
cheers,
gary
Thu, 2006-05-18 07:15
#8
Help Vampires
Unfortunately, there are too many people like this. However,on all my forums I've told people to do it themselves.
Thu, 2006-05-18 14:47
#9
Help Vampires
Hugo wrote:
It would be nice though if all the regular members could read this section '#2: Cease Enabling Behavior' as that is what I have been trying to follow for a while now and it would help if others would perhaps concider the points listed
it's rather demoralising when you're trying to help someone help themselves by pointing them in the right direction and then 5 ppl come along pointing out the answer!
larmyia